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Whats her deal? 10 pts?

My sister and I are like best friends. Usually, we get a long great but lately she's being rude and it's really starting to hurt my feelings. I try to spend time and have things in common with all three of my sisters and last night they were all over at our parents house, she was just getting pissy and saying she wanted to leave and all that so I was just like okay well call me this weekend and we can hangout. So today she called and I went over to her house and we went down to a garage sale and we were just talking and stuff and I dont remember how we got on the subject but she said my car was a "grandma car". Which it's not...it's a nice 4WD truck with low miles and its worth a lot, I got a killer deal on it and I wanted to sell it and use the money for college. So I just tried to blow it off but she kept going on and until I changed the subject. I was really offended tho, I mean, her car isn't exactly hot shit. It's just a run-of-the-mill red car that she painted flames on and got a tuner pipe. I think it looks white trash but I wouldn't say that to anyone and people make comments about how it looks stupid but she thinks everyone loves it... like I said I just keep it all to myself. Anyway, she's also been really rude because I start college this fall and she's like against college (just like my parents) but me and my other 2 sisters are all going and I'm excited. I have to make a point not to talk about it with her because she gets mad and says its a waste of money and stuff. She cleans hotel rooms for a living (she's been doing it for over 4 years) and lives off unemployment in a trailer and acts like I should be jealous. She makes fun of my job even tho it's a great job, I get paid well and I get benefits and flexible hours and a nice boss. Anyway- WHAT IS HER DEAL? What can I do to get her to stop acting so bitchy. She's like my best friend and I love her but it's miserable to be around her lately. If it sounds like I'm being bitchy - sorry- this has just been bothering me for a while.

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1. maybe your sister is jealous of you. perhaps she has problems you don't know about and is taking them out on you? it shouldn't matter if she's against college -- if she doesnt like it, then she does not have to go... you are free to make your own choices. and if not talking with her about it eases the misery, then don't do it. you can't do anything to make her stop acting b*tchy... it's her choice. i feel the best thing anyone can do in a situation like this is to let the person know we care about them, and if they ever need to talk,
2. It sounds to me like someone is extremely JEALOUS!! You my dear sound like you are on the right track and WAY TO GO!! You should be proud of what you are doing and don't let a sibling get you down in any way, shape or form. I know she is your sister but that kind of negativity is not good for anyone. Have you tried talking to her about what she is doing to you and how she is making you feel? Let her know truth and the blunt truth about how you see things and how you feel. She is your sister and she should know what she is doing and hopefully things get better .... Good Luck !
3. I think she could be jealous of your opportunities and lifestyle and she is a bit afraid that when you have completed your education you will think she is not good enough to be around. you both need to respect each others choices and concentrate on the stuff you DO have in common.
4. They have an expression: "misery loves company." I think your sister is jealous of you accomplish goals and moving up on the ladder of life while she's stuck cleaning hotel rooms and living in a trailer. Some people are just poison and you have to cut them loose or they will bring you down. The best bet is don't see her for a while and the next time you do she won't be such a b****.
5. Umm, I have 5 sisters & a brother older than me. It could be that she's feeling a little pushed aside, you 2 have always had this really close bond but now she's @ home, cleaning hotel rooms (& living off unemployment?) & you're off to this new exciting life, with new people & new experiences & she may be feeling a little like she has to compete with all that for your attention, but by doing so has started to annoy you & push you away. Try sitting down with her, maybe turn up @ her's 1 evening with a pizza & a chick-flick or whatever it is you 2 used to enjoy together, & just talk to her, explain that she's beginning to hurt you with the things she's saying. She could be scared in case you start to look down on her & her lifestyle when you meet all your fancy college mates, with high paying jobs etc. Trust me, from the 2nd youngest of 7 when the older 5 are all REALLY academic & all have high-paying+benefits+flexi-time type jobs & I dropped out @ 15 & have spent the rest of my life doing Customer care (because it's what I'm b'dy good @, not b'cos I dropped out), it really can seem that all her sisters could end up seeing her as the butt of their jokes, even though you & I both know she won't. (BTW the only 1 younger than me is severely disabled & STILL has more qualifications than I do) So be careful & TALK to her, tell her you appreciate the close bond & friendship you have with her & that no-matter what happens it will always be there.
6. It sounds as if your sister is feeling a little bit inferior to you. She may be acting this way because she isn't on the same level as you, and that can be very hard between sisters. Play up what she has going on in her life and boost her esteem, and maybe in turn she will do the same for you. If not, just be blunt about it and let her know just how this makes you feel.