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What to do about these Teenage Boys?

I'm having a problem. I'm trying to figure out if I should let my husband's teenage boys come live with us. These boys are very disrespectful to my husband and our rules. Their mother had a nervous break down she is not mentally capable of taking care of these boys so they have been raising themselves for two years. They were at first living with us because D.C.F.S got involved because she left them home alone because she got sick again and started seeing the devil and so they sent her to a psych ward at the hospital. All four of them came to live with us, we have full custody. Shit happened and I sent all four of them back to their mother which was a terrible idea. So now we have the little ones back. Because she went crazy again. She wasn't making sure they went to school, the little ones hadn't taken a bath in months nor did they ever brush their teeth. So we had to go and get them. Her medication made her sleep a lot, so she didn't have a clue as to what those kids were doing. The oldest ones didn't want to come and live by my rules because I'm real strict and I don't take no bull shit in my house. You can either follow my rules, or get fucked up if you don't want to listen, or either get the hell out. I'm not raising any kids that don't want to go to college. That's our main goal for our children in my household. So now they want to come back because their mother got really sick this time and they are not going to release her for a couple of months. So they have no one to register them in school. These boys are not even registered in any school, because she just moved out in the far country called Hopkins Park. Which is about 10 minutes from where we are. And the school district said they could not attend their old High School because they moved out of the school district. The school they have to attend, they don't want to go there. They didn't want to move out their but they couldn't make their mother see this because she was starting to get sick, she was seeing things and breaking down mentally real fast. So she had no concept of what she was doing. When I say she moved into the country I really mean a place where there is nothing but broken down trailers no running water. No cable T.V. There is nothing out there for miles. It's a bad place to raise kids. This is a place criminals run when they are wanted in Chicago. They sale a lot of drugs out there. All the teenagers out there are drop outs. And her two oldest children are drop outs also. I tried to prevent this from happening to his teenage boys. But they don't want to follow rules. And now that she's in the hospital the boys are out there by themselves with no adult . Since they've been back with her they are failing in school and has missed 60 days of school. My husband tried to force them to come but they started calling him bitches and punks. They are really angry with him for sending them back to her the first time. So I told my husband they are not allowed in my house. He didn't kick their ass. And I told him that was a big mistake. If you don't get into their asses the first time they pull that shit, they will do it over and over again. So now they want to come back . Do I let them or let they asses stay out there because that's what they wanted. I know it's going to be nothing but bull shit because the minute I ground they asses or punish them for not following my rules all hell will break out because I know I'm not going to tolerate any bodies kids disrespecting me. So I will kick their ass or put them out. Either or which ever one comes first. Would I be a cruel person for turning my back on my husbands kids and say no they can't come and live with us, for what they said to my husband the first time we tried bringing them back. I don't want that evil shit in my half way peaceful home. Right now all my kids that live with me now are passing and has not missed a day of school. I don't play when it comes to school. How can I expect these boys to do right when they have been taking care of themselves for 2 years? They don't respect my husband now. So will they respect him ever! I believe this is not going to work. Their mouths are to nasty. I don't feel like going through any drama. I don't want them getting to my boys that are doing so good in school. I don't want them picking up the bull shit from these two bad seeds. Can someone tell me what to do.

Public Comments

1. Wrong section, no?
2. What, are you writing a book here?