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Toxic Attitude from Mother-in Law....?

I am married and I did not realize that my MIL was part of the marriage. She is very well meaning. She helps us a lot. Lately, like in the last three years, she has become unbearable. We live in her house and she agreed with my husband that it would be rent free because she convinced us to move out to hell on earth, we pay all our bills. However, she tells the rest of the family that we don't pay anything and then we get everybody harrassing us by phone,e-mail and text. When my husband tries to talk to her she just says, "Who cares what they say" or "Don't get mad over it." or "Don't take it that way" or she walks away. She never stands up for him. I work and we are both in the Masters program at local university. Then she buys big priced items appliances and gives us a guilt trip for not accepting it by saying that we are ungrateful. Anything we accept she expects back all my husbands time and then some. snubs my family for being Mexican&she is too Help! Suggestions, comments

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1. First- move out of her house. When you allow someone to take care of you, you put yourself in a position where they have control. Second- She's his mom. You won't know until you lose your mom what this means. I dislike my mother in law very much, but since the death of my own mother I realize how important it is to nurture a good relationship between she and her son. She's set in her ways. You won't change her. Change yourself.
2. It all sounds like forms of control. My mother is very controlling, too. Its a hard situation, the only advice I can give is that you must set boundries with her. Also, your husband should probably be the one to speak up when she oversteps them.
3. This is your fault, not hers. you are an adult, stand on your own 2 feet, others do it, so can you. you are in HER house, if you don't like it, leave, that's the reality.
4. How much time do you have left for your Masters? Is there any affordable housing on or near campus? Sometimes there's campus housing for married students. It sounds like you have already done everything rational, and it's just not getting anywhere with her. It sounds like she acts differently with different people. Some people are just like that, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. People like that are so irritating.
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6. Here's what you must do...move. Get out of her house. Do whatever it takes to get a place on your own, even if one of you has to interrupt your education. When your family harasses you about her paying your expenses, tell them it's not true. You're already working, so he needs to get a job too. You may have to eat beans for a while, but you won't be eating your self-respect and pride as a side dish anymore.
7. get out before its to late it is obvious she hates this union and attacks it when she can i had the same thing and we walked away before it could she could ruin it.